On this misty and overcast Fall afternoon, I got to photograph the Lanier's for an anniversary shoot at Patapsco Valley State Park in Ellicott City MD. Tianna and Erwin celebrated their 2nd year anniversary on 11-22-2016. They celebrated it locally, by getting spa and massage treatments and a movie date. In general, Tianna and Erwin enjoy learning new things, whether its learning new recipes, studying geography and history to learn new insights of the Bible or exploring hidden treasures in the cities nearest to them. They also love hanging out with friends in which those nights end up in thought provoking conversations and debates.
In January, 01-11-17 to be exact, my husband and I will be celebrating our 3yrs of marriage! Time surely flies! A question that is asked often is "was your first year the hardest? Actually its phrased like this - I heard the first year is the hardest?" See for us, our first year was a breeze. We were still in the newly-wed phase, still in la la love land, always around each other and traveled a bit. We enjoyed our first year! I asked Tianna and Erwin what they thought about the first year and the notion that the first year is the hardest and this is what Erwin had to say- " I don't agree. The first year was rather easy because we both were in the big-eyed honeymoon phase. Once that honeymoon phase dulls, you begin to expose yourself and learn each other without the distorted lense. That is when the conflicts arise. I have often heard that the first year of marriage was the hardest, so after our first year went by without much of a fuss, I thought we had the most perfect marriage ever! This second year was where the work began! I am convinced "the first year is the hardest" is a practical joke that married people tell single folks to let the reality of the work marriage takes really shock you! I'll happily continue the joke though"
This is to encourage any newly-weds or those engaged to enjoy your time together. Forget what common misconceptions are. Everyone's situation is unique. Some couples may have a hard time adjusting to each other their first year and some may not. Don't get me wrong, we still had some heated arguments, some were very minute and some were extreme but we worked through it. Know that situations are seasonal and seasons come and go! Conflict is good... expect it! It strengthens the relationship.